You Never Forget A Love, You Learn To Live Without It
No love is the same and we don’t always love the same way. Every relationship we establish along the course of our life is unique and exceptional, even if its ending is fraught with sadness and some disappointment. You never forget a love.
There are those who, after having ended a relationship, hope that the next one fulfills all their expectations, all their hopes. However, being a couple also means building a relationship day after day, respecting differences and loving similarities.
Love is the most complex emotion that a human being can experience. Its impact on the brain is so intense that it is impossible to forget a relationship from our past.
Love is lived, sometimes it is lost, but it is not forgotten: we learn to live without that person who one day made us happy.
The love that is never forgotten
There are loves that hurt, that change and that make us want to never fall in love again. It is not the right way to deal with the situation.
One thing we should have clear from the beginning is that you shouldn’t give someone so much power that they can close the doors of our happiness.
The lived relationships, positive or negative, must be accepted, overcome and integrated into our life cycle as meaningful experiences from which to learn.
The love that we lose and that has made us happy
Let’s start by talking about those important relationships that have made us happy at a time in our life.
You have to see them as a gift, even though the ending is full of sadness.
- Hold on to the lived experience. All the moments in life that have brought us joy and happiness are important. For this reason, it is necessary to know how to close a chapter without complaints, without bitterness.
- Try to always remember the positive aspects of this love. If you limit yourself to remembering only the traumatic ending, the pain will weigh more in your mind than the reward of having lived a relationship that has made you grow with positive emotions.
- Keep in mind that people spend most of their lives remembering that little by little our gaze settles into the Yesterday rather than the “here and now”.
- What good is it for you to focus on grief if there have been moments of great happiness? Smile and hold on to the positives. It is a legacy that not all people can keep or have – you are lucky.
The love that hurt us in the past
There are loves that hurt because they have broken our patterns regarding respect, coexistence or even affection.
We must take into account that closing the doors to new loves just because one has hurt us is like denying oneself to approach the roses because one has stung us.
- Remember that one of our goals in life is to be happy. It doesn’t matter how you get it, whether alone or together with another person. What we must not do is deny ourselves new opportunities just because we have had a bad experience.
- Love that hurts is never forgotten, but every day it will hurt less and we will learn to live with a memory that does not paralyze, that does not limit.
- Accept that in love, as in life, there are good people and others not as adept at opening their hearts and forming a couple.
Another trap you must not fall into is to think that the responsibility is yours.
There are people who always say “I like the wrong people”, “I am the culprit of the suffering that others inflict on me, of the failure of a relationship”.
- Don’t customize the pain. Don’t turn into your enemy or your suffering. A past relationship is a step over. It is the past and you must learn to eliminate the negative charges: resentment, guilt, anger …
- Continue to advance read on the stairs of life. Love is lived, tried with all possible intensity. When we lose them, we cry or complain for an indefinite period of time. Then, only the memory remains.
And this memory must be positive, like a love that has been worth it or a love from which you have learned and which has matured you.
Everything is experience, everything is life lived.
Love is an adventure that is always worth living, if you want to face everything in a mature and conscious way.
