Nobody Gives Anything Away: In Life Everything Depends On Us
In life, no one gives anything away. Yet we live in a society where success is sometimes viewed with a certain degree of suspicion. There are those who think that being successful, far from being the result of commitment, actually depends on the influence of third parties or even on some sort of luck or fate that, from time to time, blesses us with its Magic wand.
Maybe it’s true. It is possible that strong influences serve to make certain people reach certain positions without having the appropriate skills. However, talent exists and, in general, no one gives away anything in life.
If someone succeeds professionally or personally in a certain area, it is in most cases due to many sleepless nights, daily efforts, sacrifices and those constant battles in which there is no room for surrender.
Because in life, as we all know, nothing falls from the sky. Despite this, there are those who limit themselves to dreaming, waiting for “things to happen” for a whim of the universe.
Others, on the other hand, know that, to achieve a dream, there is only one magic formula: work.
We invite you to reflect on the subject.
Nobody gives anything away: I am where I am thanks to my efforts
Victor Hugo argued that “Destiny shuffles the cards, but it is man who plays the game “.
Anyone who thinks that the happiness of one of our friends or the promotion of the neighbor is due to chance alone, is wrong.
Many people try hard to find explanations for self-satisfaction and thus hide an evidence: the annoyance of seeing that others are much happier than they are. .
It may be a little surprising, no doubt, but behind this reality there are very interesting psychological processes. Below we will explain important aspects of success and envy.
The double thread of other people’s happiness
“I want you to be happy, but no more than me”. This idea undoubtedly sums up what a “false friend” would feel for us seeing us live the life we dreamed of.
If you have noticed on some occasions that some of your acquaintances take this attitude, it is worthwhile to understand why.
- There are those who need to have some dominion over their closest circle. This control is also based on an equality of conditions. If someone gets out of this equilibrium, they are viewed with a certain mistrust.
- This need for control hides low self-esteem. If everyone around me is as bad as I am, then my shortcomings are not emphasized, there is an equality of conditions.
- Well, when someone finds a job, a partner or is successful in a certain field of his life, the other person is overshadowed or rather his shortcomings and weaknesses are highlighted in respect of the qualities of those who, with great effort, he achieved his goals.
Perseverance always pays off – turn a deaf ear when someone says otherwise
“Do you want to do a competition for that job? But if everything has already been decided and a recommendation is needed! ” “Did you fall in love with this person? It’s out of your reach, don’t waste your time! “
- We have all heard such phrases at least once. It can change the scenario, the context and the voices, but the purpose is always the same: to clip the wings, to extinguish the dreams and, why not, to avoid that you are happier than a particular person .
- It is clear that we must be realistic since, on certain occasions, it is true that we build castles in the air.
However, when our goal is clear, logical and possible, we must do everything possible to achieve it.
Daily effort is a reflection of perseverance. Whoever does not invest time, emotions, desires and each of his cells, nerves, neurons and beats in a certain goal, will not be successful.
Because in life, as we know, no one gives anything away.
The only attitude that matters is not to give up: no one gives anything in life
Along with perseverance and daily effort, an unbeatable attitude is added: that of not “giving up”.
- Those who are anxious to reach a goal not only work, not only invest time. In turn, it also has to cope with many external conditioning.
- There are not only the previously mentioned false friends, the so-called “dream killers”, there is also the company itself, its structures, its back doors, filters, walls … and, of course, the obstacles in which we always come across.
We must resist. When a person thinks he is capable of achieving something, he has to struggle in these convulsive oceans where everyone continues to float. Because sometimes it’s not enough just to be talented.
Sometimes it is necessary to have a strong heart and a noble, strong and purposeful mind.
Only in this way will we achieve the success we deserve.
